Did you know that it only takes 21 days out of 365 days of a year to develop a new habit or to replace one?
With more challenges and your GREAT NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS, it takes 20 powerful habits that you must develop and cultivate in the garden of your mind!
Self-mastery and unending personal development is how successful people master the art the life.
Traveling has taught me a lot about how unbridled our desires are and the only chain to control them is WILLPOWER to cultivate better habits.
In 2020, I am planning on developing these next 20 habits in order to live my best life and I can only recommend you to do the same…..Happiness and Fulfillment guaranteed!
1. Quality Time With Family:
Often ignored, but an important aspect of your life is ‘family’ that supports, empowers and motivates you. This year, resolve to spend more time with your family, travel along, and enjoy the sweet perks of life.
Trust me, when your mind and heart are at peace, you can do wonders at work!
2. Practice Gratitude:
Gratitude inculcates a sense of contentment within your soul. Gratitude is path to absolute abundance in life in terms of health, success, and happiness. It reminds me of The Bucket List. Undoubtedly, research has shown how gratitude helped people recover faster from hopeless situations—even deadly diseases. In fact, it’s an antidote to stress that you bring home from work.
What you have to do: keep a gratitude journal with you. Each day, mention one thing you are grateful and why. Mention about 10 reasons why you are really happy and grateful about your new home, loving husband, beautiful children or loving parents.
We either live in the past or future; meditation is what brings our focus to the present moment. Living in the NOW frees of the chains of yesterday and tomorrow.
Do I need to take time out for meditation? To be honest, No! Then, How To Meditate? When your mind is free from stress and you feel comfortable; at your office, in your bed, during a walk through the forest or at a bench in the park, meditate. Simply, focus on the beauty of life around you, be grateful for each breath you take, and every single heartbeat and everything you already have!
4. Eat Mindfully and Detox Your Body:
Mindful eating is all about slowing down the pace of eating. Relish the taste of your food with each bite. The slower you would eat, the earlier you’ll identify when your stomach is full. You wouldn’t be overeating anymore.
Moreover, drink plenty of water daily to detoxify your body. Imagine it as washing your internal machinery to maintain optimal functioning possible. Can’t bear the taste of plain water, prepare some detox bottles to add flavor or drink lemon water without sugar.
5. Learn to Say No:
Now, this one takes courage but it’s essential for your personal and professional growth. People fail to manage time and life because they cannot learn to say no. Not just to people but to unrequired wishes. A nice quote of Paolo Coelho says: “When you say yes to others, make sure you are not saying no to yourself”. So do yourself a favor this year and learn to say No!
6. Spend Time On Yourself:
Have some ‘me’ time. Follow your heart, do what you enjoy doing – reading, crafting, stitching, gardening – or treat yourself on a massage. One hour spent on what you love, away from the rat race of competition and comparisons, will instill peace of mine and re-focus your center.
7. Spend Time In Nature:
Get out of those brick-walled cocoons with closed windows and doors. It’s deteriorating your health and creativity.
If not daily, but once a week, spend time hiking the mountains, walking past the green pathways, or simply sitting around in a beautiful green garden. As per Shakespeare, Nature is learned and experienced. Nature has a language, as The Alchemist highlights; then, why not carve some time out with family and friends out in the open.
8. Appreciate Small Things:
Successful people always spend some time out among the natural blessings of God, appreciating the trivialities of life. When you understand the importance of a drop of water, you’ll figure out what potential the entire sea contains.
Celebrate your baby’s first step, a walk on the beach, the changing of the seasons, a family dinner, your new job, a new decoration piece in your living room……live a simple life.
9. Read Inspirational Books or Listen to Podcasts:
Daily motivation is necessary to begin your day. More like breakfast, a positive feeding of your mind in the morning can keep your mood uplifted and energy flowing.
The choice of book or podcast is necessary. Instead of feeding your mind with trash, spend time reading a motivating book. Words have immense power on human psychology.
If you don’t have time, watch an inspiration video, go through an illustrative video showing a motivational book summary, take notes and act.
Sharpen your axe with daily inspiration to enhance the positive outcomes of your life.
In my job, I am on the road a lot and mostly by car. I use these moments to listen to podcasts and also to take the time to think. Actually, when I think about it, they must be some of the rare moments a day when I really have the time to think! I enjoy these moments 😉
Regular exercise can regulate your hormones, help you achieve your weight-loss goals, and boosts cell regeneration within the body. If you can’t opt for weightlifting, simply go out for a brisk walk in the nature and boost your oxygen levels, blood circulation, and endorphin levels. You’d feel energetic and motivated after even half an hour of exercise.
Along with an apple, exercise can also keep the doctor away. Enjoy the euphoria after exercise. Can’t go alone, join an aerobics or dance club.
11. Set Realistic Goals and Take Actions:
Journaling is important part of each day. Set realistic goals: both long-term and short-term. Long-term goals will direct you to set better short-term goals. You’ll understand what you need to prioritize.
Taking action includes only small steps to achieve those daily goals. In the long run, you’d enjoy looking back at where it all started. However, keep the goals realistic and achievable. Reward yourself for the work you’ve done.
12. Early to Bed, Early to Rise:
Successful people wake up early to complete all their small tasks and prepare themselves for the day before it even begins. Yes, rising up early gives you time and choice to make better decisions for the day.
Some great people also think that great ideas mostly come during the early hours of the day. Moreover, you’d be enjoying a more healthful life with more time to catch up on everything.
Personally, I wake up at 5 am every day from Monday to Friday and I work on my blog. I find it easier and also important to be able to work on my blog when I am still fresh and fit, before I start my fulltime day job. When I get home in the evening, I need to make homework with the children and prepare dinner. It is too hectic to concentrate on writing content. When the children are in bed, I am usually too tired to do anything and prefer going to bed early as well.
13. Change Jobs:
This one is a daring task, but if you think you are not getting what you deserve, move on. If you believe in yourself and your potential, start changing jobs until you find that makes you happy. A job that allows you to be yourself.
14. Stay Away from Negative People:
While charging yourself with positive energy, don’t interact with negative people. Don’t allow the toxic people or their negativity have the slightest foothold in your life. Stay positive through good times and challenging (not bad) times.
Moreover, if you are caught up in negative thoughts, try to surround yourself with positive people. Don’t let the negativity infiltrate your mind and let you think low of your self-worth.
15. Always Learn & Try New Things:
Never stop learning! Learn something new every day, even a single piece of information. When related to your job, with the compound effect, it’s going to build up and make you a highly informative and competent person at work. But you can also learn from your children, even when it is just to tell you to enjoy the small things and the present moment.
Also, start trying some new things. It could be a small DIY project, like refurbishment of furniture or painting a room. Try the DIY project of your interest. A new thing could also be registering in a sports club or learning how to sail….doing new thing take you out of your comfort zone and although scary at first, can be very exciting and fun!
16. Stop Wasting Time:
When planning for the next day, I mention the hours I am going to spend on movie or social media as the ‘trash hours’. I do add those extra trash hours to give myself time to ‘waste time’. Why? It keeps me mindful of the fact that it’s going in the trash. It reminds me that I can spend those trash hours doing better things.
Do try out this technique while journaling your daily routine. Mention clearly how many trash hours you have for each day and how many are going to be in a week. It will demotivate you to waste time in front of a TV.
17. Find a Mentor:
Find that one leader out there who inspires you. This can be a family member or a friend whom you look up to and who’s opinion is always very important to you. It can also be someone famous who inspires you. There are many public people who have had great success and who are very inspiring, think about Anthony Robbins, Oprah Winfrey, Robin Sharma, Napoleon Hill, Nelson Mandela. Once you’ve found your mentor, read all their books, learn about their personal life, watch their videos, and listen to the message he/she is trying to give you.
18. Believe in Yourself:
Self-confidence is more important than your skills. In any phase of life, your confidence defines who you are going to become. In fact, confidence is attractive. Instead of spending time criticizing yourself about all the things you think you are not good enough in or for, start thinking about everything that you are good at. This can be anything from work related to personal issues.
So, believe in your choices—don’t let the society define it. Confidently follow the will of your heart!
19. Hold Yourself Accountable:
Unfortunately, we lack in accountability. When you keep an accountability check on the money spent each day or the time spent each day, you’ll know where you are going wrong. It not only allows you to figure out that room for improvement, but also helps you streamline your decisions and choices in a better way.
And last but not least:
20. Find Your WHY’s:
Now, this one is the root of all changes. Before you start practicing all the above habits, meditate on why you want to inculcate a certain habit? Why you want to improve the quality of life? Why you want to spend your time in a better way? Why you want to spend your money on better things? Why you are pursuing the job you already have?
It may sound lame because the answers are obvious. But, once you start to answer these questions, you get a better understanding of ‘yourself’. Your will power and determination to change is far stronger than what it was in 2019!
So now I am very curious……What are your Why’s for 2020? How do you put your plan into action? Share your thoughts and ideas with us in the comments below!
Here’s to a Happy New Year! Or as we say in French: Bonne Année!